We can't fight every battle. Things may not always go the way we'd like, but it's important to develop the ability to discern when to make an issue over something and when to let it go. I'm not suggesting that you stuff your anger and pretend not to feel it. Allow yourself to feel it, but once you do, consider whether you want to say or do something about the situation. Many times our anger is due to our own irrational thinking. If that's the case, talk yourself down. Consider whether you can give the other person the benefit of doubt, or whether you can cut them some slack. If you can, find a way to let go of the issue.
After thinking the situation through, if you still have a nagging urge to respond, that's your cue to develop a rational action plan for addressing whatever is bothering you. At this point, you're engaging your rational thinking rather than reacting merely from a primitive emotional level. Chances are, your reponse will be calmer, more effectice, and better heard than if you had responded impulsively in the moment.
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